Kim Wilkish - New Tides Coaching

Leadership Coaching for Women

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Gratitude, Happiness and Appreciation

Have you ever kept a gratitude journal or tracked things that you were thankful for?  Studies have shown that being aware and focusing on what we are grateful for impacts our level of happiness.  It’s simple to do.  Give it a try.

Gratitude journal or conversations

Start a gratitude journal or daily list.  Capture what 3 things you were grateful for today.

If you don’t like to write, start a dinner ritual with your family and share what you liked best about your day and what you are grateful for.

Or if you’re on the go at dinnertime ask your kids or spouse before they go to bed.  This simple exercise may help others to become aware of what they appreciate and can strengthen relationships.

Research has shown that this practice can shift perspective and help you to focus on the good things happening in your life.

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Favorite Quotes

“Chance Favors the Prepared Mind.” Louis Pasteur

“What would you attempt to do if you knew you could not fail?”  Robert Schuller

“If you can imagine it, you can achieve it. If you can dream it, you can become it.” William Arthur Ward

“Follow your instincts. That’s where true wisdom manifests itself.” Oprah Winfrey

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” Eleanor Roosevelt

“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.” Dr. Brene Brown

“The women whom I love admire for their strength and grace did not get that way because shit worked out. They got that way because shit went wrong, and they handled it. They handled it in a thousand different ways on thousand different days, but they handled it. These women are my superheroes.” Elizabeth Gilbert

“You can choose courage or you can choose comfort, but you cannot choose both.” Dr. Brene Brown

“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more & become more, you are a leader.” John Quincy Adams

“It is not fair to ask of others what you are unwilling to do yourself.” Eleanor Roosevelt

“Embrace the glorious mess that you are.” Elizabeth Gilbert

“Whatever you are, be a good one.” Abraham Lincoln

“Leadership and learning are indispensable to each other.” John F. Kennedy

“If you aren’t in the arena also getting your ass kicked, I’m not interested in your feedback.” Dr. Brene Brown

“Well Behaved women rarely make history.” Laurel Thatcher Ulrich

“You will either step forward into growth or you will step back into safety.” Abraham Maslow

“If you obey all the rules, you miss all the fun.” Katharine Hepburn

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Transitions

If you are living in the world today there is no doubt that you have faced some transitions in your life. I have participated, observed, and have been impacted by many transitions in my life.

My parents divorce, changing schools, graduating high school, getting a job, graduating college, moving, changes in relationships, getting married, having a child, changing jobs, roles and careers, Company buyouts, corporate acquisitions, Friends and relatives births, deaths, illnesses

Just to name a few….

A model that has helped me over the years to understand transitions and the inevitable emotions and feelings that go with them is William Bridges Ph.D., Transition Model.1

What I love about the model is its simplicity.  There are three phases to the model. The first phase is described as the Ending, Losing, and Letting Go phase.  Then it moves into the Neutral Zone and finally into The New Beginning phase.

Currently, many of my colleagues and I are going thru a series of transitions due to company acquisition, a new CEO and new organizational structures.   We are very much in the ‘Neutral zone’ of the transition if you apply Bridges Model.

So, many folks are nervous, anxious, stalled, and few are optimistic. Motivation and morale is low, and few know what the final outcome of the organization will be and what it will mean to them. So, what can you do to help yourself continue to move forward and not get ‘hung up’ in the emotion and negative thinking and Flow with Change?

The first thing I suggest is to recognize the transition, the transition phase, and acknowledge the people!

  • Lend an ear to those who need it, and really ‘hear’ what they say.  Feeling heard and listened to is so important to people and it is so often ignored.
  • Acknowledge what they are going thru.  Don’t sugar coat or brush aside the feelings and emotions or downplay or put them down!
  • Don’t ignore the situation.  Every transition impacts a person differently.  It could have an emotional, financial, community, social or security impact on people.
  • Help to focus people on what may be possible and what’s next.
  • Help or teach them to network, gain a skill, build their confidence, take a course, exercise, go for walk, unplug.
  • Be honest.
  • Be human and treat others with respect and dignity. Not all the people may be in the “know” but that doesn’t mean that they don’t know that whatever decisions will be made will impact them in some way.

Remember people will be in different phases of the transition. So if you have moved into the new Beginning phase, don’t forget that others may still be in the neutral phase. Remember how you felt in that phase and not knowing what the future held for you.

1 William Bridges Ph.D. Managing Transitions: Making the Most of Change, Perseus Publishing. 1991, 2003

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