
What’s your definition of success?

Kim Wilkish - New Tides Coaching
Leadership Coaching for Women
by Kim Wilkish
by Kim Wilkish
Awareness is having knowledge or a perception of a situation or being conscious of something.
Having self-awareness means that you have an understanding of who you are as a person and how you relate to the world in which you live.
As you develop your awareness, you can gain a sense of clarity of situations you find yourself in or react to and whether or not they are serving you. Through gaining awareness and clarity, we often realize that a change may be needed.
We become aware of things we are tolerating or putting up with that are impacting us in a negative way.
As humans, we have the ability to tolerate and put up with a lot of things but it’s not a badge of honor. Whether we realize it or not what you put up with weighs you down. What you’re tolerating slowly eats away at you and minimizes what you’re capable of and slowly deteriorates your self-confidence and self-worth.
The first step to realizing that a change is needed is often through awareness of your tolerations.
When you’re putting up with or tolerating something, you may experience the following:
Awareness often comes with a resistance to change as it’s easier to be comfortable with the status quo. This usually follows ignoring or denying the reasons for change as we see things are fine as they are. We are creatures of habit. We become comfortable and it’s easier to maintain the status quo.
When we have been tolerating something and putting up with things for a long time eventually the discomfort and pain gets to be too great to maintain. This is why we often don’t realize that we have a choice.
We have a choice to take no action and resist change or to accept the need to change and move through it.
When tolerating something that no longer feels tolerable, change is imminent.
Change is hard. It’s one thing to know that change is needed & another to actually take the action needed for the change.
by Kim Wilkish
If you read my last post then you know I was on the edge.
I was tired of trying to be superwoman and feeling like I wasn’t doing anything well.
I decided to take a step back.
I took the time to reflect and really look at my life.
This is what I learned….
Here’s truth bomb #1: I wasn’t being honest with myself.
Truth bomb #2: I was losing sight of me & what I really wanted for my life.
Truth bomb #3: I was sick of feeling like I wasn’t good enough trying to do everything well and be all things to all people.
If I was being really honest with myself, I knew that…
The first step to be the leader of your life is self-awareness.
Women struggle with what is expected of them or what they think is expected of them. We tend to put others needs ahead of our own. We may feel distracted, overwhelmed and frustrated. If we don’t address this then we may start to feel resentful which has its own consequences.
Have you ever struggled with others expectations? What did you think was expected of you?
I needed to regain control and make myself a priority in my own life.